I just realized, I am trying to be a superwoman again. Thus, I do not have peace within me. I cannot do all my responsibilities without my Creator who led me to do these things.
Advice to myself (similar to what my OB told me): Do not be a superwoman. Trust and obey.
MAKES SO MUCH SENSE!!!
Saturday, January 04, 2014
2014, here we come!!
Despite the blessings and God's grace poured upon me in 2013, that year was a bit tough for me - personally and financially. Alex and I set goals at the beginning of the year but we did not make it. My dad needed more financial attention because of his condition, and so we had to make some changes in our budget. Thus, we did not meet our goals - moving to a more spacious place and I quit tutoring (my 2nd job). However, it was a fun year. Cinzia and I went to 5 different states in one week, I became a US citizen, I was able to petition for my mom, and Alex and I had many date nights.
This 2014 will be special. I will turn 30!! It sounds so old, but that is the reality. I hope this year will be fun as well, and productive. These are my main goals:
This 2014 will be special. I will turn 30!! It sounds so old, but that is the reality. I hope this year will be fun as well, and productive. These are my main goals:
- Teach Cinzia how to read
- Potty-train Cinzia
- Attend many spiritual gatherings
- Attend two weddings (my brother-in-law's in Idaho and my close friend's in Manila)
- Start with my next professional goal: Law or Phd (I have not made up my mind yet although I have done thorough research on both)
- Be nicer to Alex - in words, in thoughts, and in deeds
- Spend more time with God
- Read/Listen to more books/e-books
Others have asked us if we're still trying to have a 2nd baby. My answer to that is, our situation right now is not ideal for another baby. I have prerequisites. It would be unfair for the baby However, I feel bad for Cinzia. She needs a playmate, another kid to talk to. My heart cries every night when I see her so playful and giggly, and there is no one for her to share her feelings and energy with. I am actually torn, but I really do not know. My mind and heart are not one in this issue just yet. Maybe, it's not time. If God wills, it will happen. Let me just vent also that having a baby is overwhelming. It is stressful. It really slows you down. It changes your priorities and perspective. Alex has been patient and very good in dealing with Cinzia. I could not do what he did. It is definitely not easy. Most times, I had to make choices like, should I clean the house or play with her? Make more money or go home and cook? Go on a vacation or send the money home for my dad?
I am overwhelmed with so many roles I have to play - mom, wife, daughter, employee. The pressure is wearing me down. It takes away a part of my personal happiness. I am not at peace right now, and I know there is only one source of peace - Him. Let me go to Him, and wait and see. I will get back to you soon.
Thursday, July 18, 2013
My mom's journey to US permanent residency
I got my US citizenship on June 26, 2013, and I did it for three reasons:
Disclaimer: My mom wanted me to slow down the process. She said, she is not ready. While I was in the Philippines for a month-long vacation with Cinzia, we realized that it would take significant time for my mom to get a passport because she still needed to secure a government-issued ID. She is working on the ID so she can apply for a passport.
1. The fees will increase if I wait too long.
2. I can travel anywhere with a US passport!!!
3. I want to petition for my family.
I started to petition for my mom last week, and I am going to post her timeline here:
July 11- Mailed application I-130 (along with copies of my birth certificate, naturalization certificate, and $420 check)
July 18 - Got an email from USCIS to confirm receipt and my check was cashed
November 22 - Got a letter stating her case was transferred to Nebraska office to expedite it.
December 18 - Request for evidence. They needed a proof that my mom (with her married name) is one and the same with Adoracion Abellanosa Yap, her maiden name.
February 24 - Petition approved!! Case is moved to NVC
April 14 - Got a letter in the mail telling me to pay $88 AOS fee and fill up DS-261
May 3rd - Got a letter from NVC with a visa processing bill of $230
May 14 - paid $88 AOS
June 12 - paid $230 IVF
July 10 - filled up DS-260 online for my mom (At this time, I am on vacation in the Philippines.)
October 2014 - Got an email and mail saying I need to make corrections to my I-864 and send the following: mom's orig. marriage and birth certificates, passport bio page, and orig. NBI clearance, my original birth and marriage certificates.
April 27, 2015 - Mailed all documents to NVC including 2014 tax return. A new year has passed so I assumed they needed the most recent tax return.
April 30 - NVC received my mail ( according to its tracking online), They also emailed me saying to give them 60 days for review.
June 7 - NVC emailed and mailed me telling me to submit my w2s, tax returns, and make changes with my I-864. Apparently, Alex needs to be my co-sponsor because we have joint tax return, so I have to turn in his w2s as well.
November 22 - Got a letter stating her case was transferred to Nebraska office to expedite it.
December 18 - Request for evidence. They needed a proof that my mom (with her married name) is one and the same with Adoracion Abellanosa Yap, her maiden name.
February 24 - Petition approved!! Case is moved to NVC
April 14 - Got a letter in the mail telling me to pay $88 AOS fee and fill up DS-261
May 3rd - Got a letter from NVC with a visa processing bill of $230
May 14 - paid $88 AOS
June 12 - paid $230 IVF
July 10 - filled up DS-260 online for my mom (At this time, I am on vacation in the Philippines.)
October 2014 - Got an email and mail saying I need to make corrections to my I-864 and send the following: mom's orig. marriage and birth certificates, passport bio page, and orig. NBI clearance, my original birth and marriage certificates.
April 27, 2015 - Mailed all documents to NVC including 2014 tax return. A new year has passed so I assumed they needed the most recent tax return.
April 30 - NVC received my mail ( according to its tracking online), They also emailed me saying to give them 60 days for review.
June 7 - NVC emailed and mailed me telling me to submit my w2s, tax returns, and make changes with my I-864. Apparently, Alex needs to be my co-sponsor because we have joint tax return, so I have to turn in his w2s as well.
August 12 - I mailed in all necessary documents.
August 25 -I received an email from NVC stating my mom's schedule for interview on September 21st. (Less than a month from now!)
September 14 - Mom flew to Manila with sister.
September 15, 16 - Mom had her medical exam at St. LUKES.
September 21 - interview at US Embassy! Passed with only 2 questions.
November 17 - Mama's flying with Philippine Airlines!
Disclaimer: My mom wanted me to slow down the process. She said, she is not ready. While I was in the Philippines for a month-long vacation with Cinzia, we realized that it would take significant time for my mom to get a passport because she still needed to secure a government-issued ID. She is working on the ID so she can apply for a passport.
Saturday, July 13, 2013
Cinzia is 2!
Our precious Cinzia turned two last Sunday, 7/7. My baby is a baby no more. I could not believe how time flew so fast. Experienced parents have already warned me against this, but I took it for granted. I felt like I just went to work and Cinzia became 20 pounds heavier when I came home. It was lightning fast.
I am not the type of girl who is fond of babies. I am not good in taking care of babies nor am I patient with them. With Cinzia, I could say it's Alex who has the greatest influence. Our baby is really a good (I am saying this without bias.). Strangers, Costco cashiers, flight attendants, relatives whom we met for the first time, and many others have told us she is such a pleasant baby. She has a huge smile ready for everyone. She listens and obeys easily. She does not insist on what she wants. She tests us, too, sometimes, but generally, she is easy.
Two weeks ago, I brought her to West Virginia and we travelled 5 states with our relatives. Cinzia did not complain on the long road trips. She kept up with me at airports by walking and running to catch the next flight (We had two layovers each way). She did not throw any tantrums. She ate what I bought and/or prepared for her. Yes, she is a pleasant baby. I hope she will continue to behave like this as she gets older. Alex really did a good job on her. I am so proud of him.
Cinzia and I were not really close. As I said, I am not into babies. I could not even play with her for 30 minutes straight. Alex already demanded I should. I can feed and bathe her, changer her diaper and clothes, drive her around, and sing with her. That's about it. With that trip we both made, Cinzia and I got closer than ever. I am so in love with this baby girl. As Alex always says, she is our pride and joy.
I cannot be grateful enough to God for sending Cinzia into our lives. Even if we did not expect her to come in this world at that time she was conceived, she came at a perfect timing. When she arrived, my career soared, and blessings poured one by one! She is the perfect baby for me and Alex. God really knows what we're doing.
Happy 2nd birthday, Cinzia! We love you very very much! Here are some pictures Cinzia and I took on the plane while waiting to take off. We were bored.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Time to update..
So many things have happened since my last post. Hearts have changed. Minds have settled, and love has prevailed.=)
Well, Alex got some health challenges, and he was hospitalized for 4 days. Thanks to medical insurance we did not drown in debt. We did not even pay even a penny. I wanted to cry for joy when I saw the bill, and the info beside it that said, "Patient responsibility: $0." After two epidural shots to his sciatic nerve, Alex is better now. He is back to normal. Thankfully, he is back to work as well. He has been working from home and his hours are flexible. He has a potential of earning more than I do, and I have been encouraging him to maximize the potential. I am really trying to be a good wife. It is tiring to be a nagger and mean.
In the past days, I have also learned to be content with what we have. Spending quality time with Cinzia is very important. Improving my relationship with Alex and Cinzia is all worth it. My plans of studying again is put on hold right now. I would like to hone my teaching skills for now, and the be the best teacher I can be.
My summer vacation is here! I am so excited! Alex, Cinzia, and I started it off with a weekend family retreat in Oxnard with Ate Rose's church. Then this coming week, our families, along with our college friend from Guam, Kelvin, and his family, we are going on a road trip to Yosemite, Sequoia, San Francisco, and camping in Big Sur. This will be on my birthday week! Before this month ends, Cinzia and I are flying to West Virginia to spend time with my dad's side of the family. My cousin is giving birth and I would like to help out. On the third week of July, we are all going to Las Vegas for the Differentiated Instruction conference. It will be a family/work/vacation trip! This summer will be fun!
This coming July 7th, our baby girl is turning 2! Where did the time go? Cinzia has grown! I am so in love with this baby girl!
She will be ready for this soon!
Playing at the park is her everyday thing.
Wednesday, April 10, 2013
Law. School.
My desire to become a lawyer has been bugging me lately. It might be because of Jodi Arias' case. I have been paying attention to this pretty girl's criminal case in Arizona, and my lawyer blood just kept me glued on my Mac computer screen everyday, even when I am in the classroom with my students.
Should I go to law school or not? I was in law school in Davao. I quit because of Sabbath problems, but I loved the experience. I loved to study, I loved going to the library at 7am, I loved reading cases, I loved the adrenaline rush...everything! Here, in the US, there are no Sabbath problems. I can do whatever I want. So I have been researching on how to go to law school. After days and days of research, I am now torn. Top law schools (American Bar Association accredited schools) have at least 120k in tuition fees. I can borrow that, but do I really want to accumulate that much student loans after law school? That is torture and stress. However, the big advantage is that, I am more likely to pass the bar and succeed in the field because the school has a name. That means, job opportunities are better.
On the other hand, there are non-ABA schools here. Distance-learning and correspondence schools are way cheaper. Tuition ranges from 10k to 40k. Amazing! I can afford that with my current salary. However, employers don't necessarily respect non-ABA schools. Graduates have a hard time finding jobs because ABA schools have produced enough lawyers to fill in positions. Bar passage is also below 50%. Don't get me wrong, there are successful lawyers from non-ABA schools as well. They have their own law firms though.
I am torn. I have not decided yet. I am already exhausted reading forums, reading blogs, and listening to debates about ABA vs non-ABA schools. I think my next step would be talking to practicing lawyers so I can truly get a glimpse of the reality of the legal field.
I also have to consider that I have a daughter and a husband and a stable fulfilling job. These also factor in my decision. Another thing is, will I really practice law in the future? What if I get bored with teaching? What if, in the future, I regret not going to law school? When Cinzia goes to college, what will I do? I do not want to be bored.
I don't know. I need to pray about this. There, I just poured my heart out.
Should I go to law school or not? I was in law school in Davao. I quit because of Sabbath problems, but I loved the experience. I loved to study, I loved going to the library at 7am, I loved reading cases, I loved the adrenaline rush...everything! Here, in the US, there are no Sabbath problems. I can do whatever I want. So I have been researching on how to go to law school. After days and days of research, I am now torn. Top law schools (American Bar Association accredited schools) have at least 120k in tuition fees. I can borrow that, but do I really want to accumulate that much student loans after law school? That is torture and stress. However, the big advantage is that, I am more likely to pass the bar and succeed in the field because the school has a name. That means, job opportunities are better.
On the other hand, there are non-ABA schools here. Distance-learning and correspondence schools are way cheaper. Tuition ranges from 10k to 40k. Amazing! I can afford that with my current salary. However, employers don't necessarily respect non-ABA schools. Graduates have a hard time finding jobs because ABA schools have produced enough lawyers to fill in positions. Bar passage is also below 50%. Don't get me wrong, there are successful lawyers from non-ABA schools as well. They have their own law firms though.
I am torn. I have not decided yet. I am already exhausted reading forums, reading blogs, and listening to debates about ABA vs non-ABA schools. I think my next step would be talking to practicing lawyers so I can truly get a glimpse of the reality of the legal field.
I also have to consider that I have a daughter and a husband and a stable fulfilling job. These also factor in my decision. Another thing is, will I really practice law in the future? What if I get bored with teaching? What if, in the future, I regret not going to law school? When Cinzia goes to college, what will I do? I do not want to be bored.
I don't know. I need to pray about this. There, I just poured my heart out.
Thursday, March 14, 2013
My journey to US citizenship - 2013
Feb 27 - USCIS received my application
March 11 - Got fingerprinting notice
March 29 - Biometrics in Chatsworth
June 4 - Interview ( I got all the answers to the questions right! The immigration officer was really nice. She convinced me not to change my name.)
June 26 - Oath taking!
All in all, the whole process took me 4 months. That is not bad at all. I was not really that excited to take my oath. I felt it was no big deal. Three main things prompted me to apply for citizenship ASAP: the fees might increase soon, the ability to petition for my parents, and the ability to travel anywhere without a need for a visa. There was no I-will-be-an-American excitement. However, the ceremony brought out a lot of emotions within me, especially when the Immigration Judge addressed us as his fellow Americans. My heart raced so fast. I realized, I did work hard to where I am today. I wanted this moment to come. USA has actually been good to me, despite the hardships I experienced in the first years. I wanted to cry when President Obama welcomed us through an AVP and reminded us once again that in this country, anything is possible. That was a very nice assurance. I truly believe it in my heart. I am a dreamer, and I am determined to fulfill my dreams. (For that, my desire of becoming a lawyer heightened.)
I am proud to be a citizen of the United States of America, the country that gave me hope, support, and assurance no matter what my status in life is! Now all three of us are Americans! I am delighted! I can only thank God for this!
March 11 - Got fingerprinting notice
March 29 - Biometrics in Chatsworth
June 4 - Interview ( I got all the answers to the questions right! The immigration officer was really nice. She convinced me not to change my name.)
June 26 - Oath taking!
All in all, the whole process took me 4 months. That is not bad at all. I was not really that excited to take my oath. I felt it was no big deal. Three main things prompted me to apply for citizenship ASAP: the fees might increase soon, the ability to petition for my parents, and the ability to travel anywhere without a need for a visa. There was no I-will-be-an-American excitement. However, the ceremony brought out a lot of emotions within me, especially when the Immigration Judge addressed us as his fellow Americans. My heart raced so fast. I realized, I did work hard to where I am today. I wanted this moment to come. USA has actually been good to me, despite the hardships I experienced in the first years. I wanted to cry when President Obama welcomed us through an AVP and reminded us once again that in this country, anything is possible. That was a very nice assurance. I truly believe it in my heart. I am a dreamer, and I am determined to fulfill my dreams. (For that, my desire of becoming a lawyer heightened.)
I am proud to be a citizen of the United States of America, the country that gave me hope, support, and assurance no matter what my status in life is! Now all three of us are Americans! I am delighted! I can only thank God for this!
Bright and early! We braved the early morning traffic in LA on the way to LA Convention Center.
Moi with the naturalization certificate and American flag in my hands
President Obama's welcome message to me and 2500 others
Sunday, March 10, 2013
Romantic night
Since February, Alex and I have been going to a six-week date series at Altadena SDA Church. It is for couples who want to better their marriage, whether they are going through difficult times or not. My co-teacher, Linda Williams, told us about this, and Alex and I readily signed up. The program is called "The Art of Marriage." So far, it has been really good. It reminds me that marriage is to honor God and a reflection of Him. Couples overtime become emotionally divorced, and Alex and I do not want that to happen in our marriage. We want to be a better husband and wife. These are the things that stuck in my mind:
1. Our spouse is a gift from God.
2. Our spouse should be prioritized even if you already have children.
3. There is an enemy, and it is not your spouse.
Last night, we did not have a session because it was supposed to be a creative date night. Alex thought of something, and he was not telling me. He brought me to Malibu along the Pacific Coast Highway. We parked by the road close to the seashore. We declined our seats and just enjoyed the sound of the waves (my favorite sound in the whole world!). We then opened our sunroof and watched the stars. That was a sight to behold! I remember my days in Palau wherein my friends would bring a mat and blanket in the middle of a track field or by the seashore, and we would just relax and chitchat. That experience also reminded me of the alarm clock Alex brought when I was pregnant. That special clock make various sounds that relax me - waves, forest, rain, etc. I forgot that clock because it has been a long time since I have listened to those sounds from the clock. It is ironic because that is the same clock that wakes us up every morning.
That was the most romantic moment in my life since I gave birth to Cinzia. It was special. Alex then proposed something to me, a new habit that we shall be practicing for the rest of our lives. You see, marriage is all about the small stuff, so he thought about this idea which really cracked me up. But I am willing to give it a try. It is cute anyway. He proposed that whenever we are on the road, and we are at a full stop due to a red light, we would kiss. The idea was just hilarious! I thought of how Cinzia would react as she grows riding with us. I also thought about her sharing this with her friends later or even to her boyfriend/s. That is quite embarrassing! Alex, on the other hand, seemed like he has thoroughly thought about it. Well, I truly appreciated the thought to spice up our relationship. So we started "the new habit" last night. It was not that bad. I actually liked it.=)
1. Our spouse is a gift from God.
2. Our spouse should be prioritized even if you already have children.
3. There is an enemy, and it is not your spouse.
Last night, we did not have a session because it was supposed to be a creative date night. Alex thought of something, and he was not telling me. He brought me to Malibu along the Pacific Coast Highway. We parked by the road close to the seashore. We declined our seats and just enjoyed the sound of the waves (my favorite sound in the whole world!). We then opened our sunroof and watched the stars. That was a sight to behold! I remember my days in Palau wherein my friends would bring a mat and blanket in the middle of a track field or by the seashore, and we would just relax and chitchat. That experience also reminded me of the alarm clock Alex brought when I was pregnant. That special clock make various sounds that relax me - waves, forest, rain, etc. I forgot that clock because it has been a long time since I have listened to those sounds from the clock. It is ironic because that is the same clock that wakes us up every morning.
That was the most romantic moment in my life since I gave birth to Cinzia. It was special. Alex then proposed something to me, a new habit that we shall be practicing for the rest of our lives. You see, marriage is all about the small stuff, so he thought about this idea which really cracked me up. But I am willing to give it a try. It is cute anyway. He proposed that whenever we are on the road, and we are at a full stop due to a red light, we would kiss. The idea was just hilarious! I thought of how Cinzia would react as she grows riding with us. I also thought about her sharing this with her friends later or even to her boyfriend/s. That is quite embarrassing! Alex, on the other hand, seemed like he has thoroughly thought about it. Well, I truly appreciated the thought to spice up our relationship. So we started "the new habit" last night. It was not that bad. I actually liked it.=)
Friday, February 15, 2013
This year 2013
This year started off with not-so-positive feelings, with stress, with resentment. Honestly, since I have become a full-time mom and a full-time teacher, there were so many times that I had grown resentful of the fact that I do not have enough time to be home and do "mommy" stuff for Cinzia and "wifey" stuff for my husband. Why am I working so hard? Why can't Alex have a job that pays as much or higher than mine, so I can relax a bit and spend more time at home? Why is Alex the one (working) at home? So many questions.
Before I came here in the US, I already knew things would be difficult. 2008 was the worst year for the US economy. So many people, including Alex, lost their jobs. When we got married that year, we did not have a car, we lived in a very small studio place, we lived in a meager income, we did not have health insurance and other insurances needed, etc. Five years later and after materializing some of our shared goals as a couple, our lives have completely changed. Money is not an issue anymore. We have two cars, and we can afford to go on a vacation every year. More importantly, Cinzia is healthy and happy. However, despite these wonderful changes, Alex and I had grown apart. I saw him in a different light. We are not as in love as we were before. We mostly did not connect in our conversations. It was frustrating and stressful.
So I decided to pray about these feelings, for him, and for God's will. Actually, this is my only New Year's resolution. It was not an easy journey with myself. Thankfully, God has heard me and opened my heart to the lessons He is actually teaching me with this situation.
1. Patience - I have to have faith that things will fall in place in God's time. We cannot change things overnight. Waiting is worthwhile.
2. Trust in Him - Remember the verse, "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart?"
3. Trust in my husband - I know Alex as a very dependable guy. He is family-oriented, has a big heart, and is very patient. Most importantly, He is God-fearing. Aren't these good qualities?
4. Thankfulness - So many blessings have come. As I said, our lives have completely changed since we started as a family.
5. Contentment - Whatever we have, I have to be contented. Life is not a competition.
6. Putting God first - Matthew 6:33 says, "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you."
I admit, it is not easy to learn these things. I earnestly pray that God will help me open my hearts to the lessons He is teaching me. I cannot appease myself alone. I need him.
I also want to apologize to Alex for the bad changes I made in myself that almost ruined our marriage. I had grown to be resentful and bitter, and it changed me completely. I also saw him in a different light. I allowed that to happen. I am now realizing these things, and I am thankful God has "slapped" me to reality, to the person He wants Rica to be.
I will continue to change for the better. I will continue to learn the lessons He is teaching me. By God's grace, I will become a joyful wife and mother once again. Nothing is impossible with God. I do not want to grow old bitter and resentful. I only live once and I want to make my life worthwhile.
Before I came here in the US, I already knew things would be difficult. 2008 was the worst year for the US economy. So many people, including Alex, lost their jobs. When we got married that year, we did not have a car, we lived in a very small studio place, we lived in a meager income, we did not have health insurance and other insurances needed, etc. Five years later and after materializing some of our shared goals as a couple, our lives have completely changed. Money is not an issue anymore. We have two cars, and we can afford to go on a vacation every year. More importantly, Cinzia is healthy and happy. However, despite these wonderful changes, Alex and I had grown apart. I saw him in a different light. We are not as in love as we were before. We mostly did not connect in our conversations. It was frustrating and stressful.
So I decided to pray about these feelings, for him, and for God's will. Actually, this is my only New Year's resolution. It was not an easy journey with myself. Thankfully, God has heard me and opened my heart to the lessons He is actually teaching me with this situation.
1. Patience - I have to have faith that things will fall in place in God's time. We cannot change things overnight. Waiting is worthwhile.
2. Trust in Him - Remember the verse, "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart?"
3. Trust in my husband - I know Alex as a very dependable guy. He is family-oriented, has a big heart, and is very patient. Most importantly, He is God-fearing. Aren't these good qualities?
4. Thankfulness - So many blessings have come. As I said, our lives have completely changed since we started as a family.
5. Contentment - Whatever we have, I have to be contented. Life is not a competition.
6. Putting God first - Matthew 6:33 says, "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you."
I admit, it is not easy to learn these things. I earnestly pray that God will help me open my hearts to the lessons He is teaching me. I cannot appease myself alone. I need him.
I also want to apologize to Alex for the bad changes I made in myself that almost ruined our marriage. I had grown to be resentful and bitter, and it changed me completely. I also saw him in a different light. I allowed that to happen. I am now realizing these things, and I am thankful God has "slapped" me to reality, to the person He wants Rica to be.
I will continue to change for the better. I will continue to learn the lessons He is teaching me. By God's grace, I will become a joyful wife and mother once again. Nothing is impossible with God. I do not want to grow old bitter and resentful. I only live once and I want to make my life worthwhile.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
2012 reflections
These are the things I am thankful for in 2012:
1. God allowed me to keep my job. Best thing ever!
2. Cinzia is healthy.
3. Alex still tries to finish school.
4. We went to Tennessee and met thousands of SDA educators America-wide. More importantly, we got a good friend in Chanda.
5. Eighteen manageable 5th graders!
6. We went to Panama!
7. more private tutoring clients for extra income
My prayers and goals in 2013:
1. US citizenship
2. pay off some debt
3. wise handling of money
4. better marriage
5. Cinzia will be able to walk and talk properly.
6. lose weight! lose weight! lose weight!
It was a great year still! Thank you Jesus!
1. God allowed me to keep my job. Best thing ever!
2. Cinzia is healthy.
3. Alex still tries to finish school.
4. We went to Tennessee and met thousands of SDA educators America-wide. More importantly, we got a good friend in Chanda.
5. Eighteen manageable 5th graders!
6. We went to Panama!
7. more private tutoring clients for extra income
My prayers and goals in 2013:
1. US citizenship
2. pay off some debt
3. wise handling of money
4. better marriage
5. Cinzia will be able to walk and talk properly.
6. lose weight! lose weight! lose weight!
It was a great year still! Thank you Jesus!
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Yesterday, 7/25
In my previous post, I mentioned my dilemma about my family's future. I already knew this week would be a tough week. Choices needed to be made.
Yesterday, as planned, I called my principal. We talked about her plans and any updates on my employment. She said there are no updates, there is still a problem with the visas of the Chinese teachers and she is not certain if things will be resolved by Friday, the day we agreed to make a final decision on my employment. She said, even if the Chinese kids will arrive at school one or two weeks late, it is still going to be fine. My mind said, "But I do not have those two weeks! Guam is waiting!" Since the Chinese kids are coming anyway, it is just a matter of when, I asked her the BIG question (an idea from a Derek Nutt, my classmate in ethics class, who is a teacher at another SDA school), "Can you take a leap of faith in me?" We said goodbyes and I talked to Alex. My husband was fine with moving anywhere but when I talked to him yesterday, he made up his mind. He said, "Drop Guam." I got upset, I cried. I was not ready for that answer. The Guam opportunity was the only sure thing we had! How could he say that? I left the house to school without kissing him goodbye. I cried in the car, called my friend Von, and prayed and prayed throughout my 40-minute drive to La Sierra. When I exited the freeway, I got a text from our principal asking me to call her when I get a break. I was battling if I should call her right away. If it is bad news, I would not want to ruin my presentation for my class that day. But what if it is good news? When I drove through the university's parking lot, I told God, "Whatever, God. Whatever." I called her and she said she got the word (from her boss) and I am in, for sure. I could not believe it. I was shocked. I did not cry. I was done crying. I felt relieved.
What a day! Hopefully, things will fall into place. God already knew it. This decision to stay at Glendale is a leap of faith. My co-teachers say that. It is a leap of faith.
Lessons learned:
1. Listen to Alex. Alex and I have been praying for this and God must have told him in his own time and meditation that Guam is not the right place for us. Thus, he told me to drop Guam. I did not listen. I got upset.
2. Have faith. Tia Melanya, Alex's aunt, said I did not have even faith that God will do it for me. I think I did have faith that God will make things clear. I do not know what He'd do but I did not doubt His power. He can do it but I guess I did not have faith enough to believe He will.
More power, amigas and amigos! Thank you for those who listened to my venting! God is good - all the time!!
Monday, July 23, 2012
Crucial point
Guam or Glendale?
I am in a tough situation right now. Let me tell you the short history.
On the last Friday of June, my principal at Glendale Adventist Academy called and gave me some not-so-good news. She said the school may not be able to employ me again for the next school year which starts in August because of low enrollment. Because I am the last hired of that school (and the youngest too!), I am the easiest target. I felt sad, of course, but I got on my feet and started jobhunting big time!
I love Glendale. The school is home-y, comfortable, and I love my co-teachers. They may be way older than me but they are supportive, caring, and helpful. My students too are awesome. Their parents are so involved. I taught at a public school in 2011 and I could truly see the difference. My students in Glendale are way better. Other advantages of this job are: the benefits are awesome (dental, medical, vision, health savings, retirement) and professional development is superb (they pay for our summer school at the university and send us to places to attend teacher conferences). Even if my employment is not certain, the principal and I have been in constant communication. She is updating me on the enrollment. Little by little, the number of students grows in a month and that means, I can be secured with my position. As they were about to tell me (according to her) about my sure employment, an informer told them there's a problem with the visas of the Chinese teachers (who are accompanying the 60+ Chinese students who attend our school yearly). If there are no Chinese teachers coming to our school, there will be no Chinese students.. and that is a big chunk of the school budget! More teachers will be in jeopardy. The principals of my school are working it out with the US Embassy and they will update me again as so where I stand. Again, when this works out, I am in for sure. This brings me to the disadvantage of staying at this school. Until when is the security? Will I still stand on the same status next year? Will I still be jobhunting like crazy next year? This situation is crazy. Do I really want to go through this again?
While Glendale was sorting things out with their finances and enrollment in the month of July, I was in constant communication with Guam Adventist Academy for a possible employment. They called me 4 times for interviews and, finally, last Saturday, they told me I am hired. They gave me the go signal to buy the tickets of my whole family and they will reimburse the cost when we get there. Here are the advantages of this opportunity: It offers rent-free apartment and free car for easy mobility (so bills are just food and gas), it offers free fare for the three of us to and from the US every 2 years (Since it is cheaper to go through the Philippines to Guam from the US, we can hit two birds with one stone! I could go to my two homes for free!), simple life (It is an island just like Palau!), it is a US territory and Alex is a US citizen so he can get a job there, and I can still apply for my citizenship which I am already eligible for since June because Guam has a USCIS office. My friend who teaches there for 4 years now said, unless I mess up big time, my employment is pretty stable. The only issue I have with Guam is the low pay (1/3 of what I am getting now) and I have bills to pay back here in the States, plus I send money home for my dad's dialysis. If Alex gets a job over there, we will be fine, so he has to step up (if and) when we get there.
This is tough. In the past weeks, I was fine. But since yesterday, I have been a mess. It hit me that I had to make a wise decision soon. Guam's classes start on August 13 while Glendale's start on August 16. These dates are soon and I have to make a decision soon. My priority is still my current employer and I will wait until they say a clear Yes or No but I informed them that it would be unfair to keep Guam waiting that long. The principal understands that.
This week will be crucial. Lord, where will we be? Where do we fit best? Which one is best for my family in the long run? Please guide me. Please lead me.
I am in a tough situation right now. Let me tell you the short history.
On the last Friday of June, my principal at Glendale Adventist Academy called and gave me some not-so-good news. She said the school may not be able to employ me again for the next school year which starts in August because of low enrollment. Because I am the last hired of that school (and the youngest too!), I am the easiest target. I felt sad, of course, but I got on my feet and started jobhunting big time!
I love Glendale. The school is home-y, comfortable, and I love my co-teachers. They may be way older than me but they are supportive, caring, and helpful. My students too are awesome. Their parents are so involved. I taught at a public school in 2011 and I could truly see the difference. My students in Glendale are way better. Other advantages of this job are: the benefits are awesome (dental, medical, vision, health savings, retirement) and professional development is superb (they pay for our summer school at the university and send us to places to attend teacher conferences). Even if my employment is not certain, the principal and I have been in constant communication. She is updating me on the enrollment. Little by little, the number of students grows in a month and that means, I can be secured with my position. As they were about to tell me (according to her) about my sure employment, an informer told them there's a problem with the visas of the Chinese teachers (who are accompanying the 60+ Chinese students who attend our school yearly). If there are no Chinese teachers coming to our school, there will be no Chinese students.. and that is a big chunk of the school budget! More teachers will be in jeopardy. The principals of my school are working it out with the US Embassy and they will update me again as so where I stand. Again, when this works out, I am in for sure. This brings me to the disadvantage of staying at this school. Until when is the security? Will I still stand on the same status next year? Will I still be jobhunting like crazy next year? This situation is crazy. Do I really want to go through this again?
While Glendale was sorting things out with their finances and enrollment in the month of July, I was in constant communication with Guam Adventist Academy for a possible employment. They called me 4 times for interviews and, finally, last Saturday, they told me I am hired. They gave me the go signal to buy the tickets of my whole family and they will reimburse the cost when we get there. Here are the advantages of this opportunity: It offers rent-free apartment and free car for easy mobility (so bills are just food and gas), it offers free fare for the three of us to and from the US every 2 years (Since it is cheaper to go through the Philippines to Guam from the US, we can hit two birds with one stone! I could go to my two homes for free!), simple life (It is an island just like Palau!), it is a US territory and Alex is a US citizen so he can get a job there, and I can still apply for my citizenship which I am already eligible for since June because Guam has a USCIS office. My friend who teaches there for 4 years now said, unless I mess up big time, my employment is pretty stable. The only issue I have with Guam is the low pay (1/3 of what I am getting now) and I have bills to pay back here in the States, plus I send money home for my dad's dialysis. If Alex gets a job over there, we will be fine, so he has to step up (if and) when we get there.
This is tough. In the past weeks, I was fine. But since yesterday, I have been a mess. It hit me that I had to make a wise decision soon. Guam's classes start on August 13 while Glendale's start on August 16. These dates are soon and I have to make a decision soon. My priority is still my current employer and I will wait until they say a clear Yes or No but I informed them that it would be unfair to keep Guam waiting that long. The principal understands that.
This week will be crucial. Lord, where will we be? Where do we fit best? Which one is best for my family in the long run? Please guide me. Please lead me.
Thursday, June 14, 2012
Summer 2012 is here!
I lined up a few activities for our family to enjoy this summer. Alex and I always love roadtrips, out-of-town trips, sight-seeing, and visiting friends and families. I love the luxury of time brought about by being a teacher. We have all these breaks with pay! I feel so blessed with this privilege. If it's God's will for me to stay in teaching for the rest of my life, then I will be able to enjoy these breaks with fun-filled activities!
1. One whole week trip to Modesto to visit my uncle's and auntie's families - It is a five-hour drive from North Hollywood, where we are. Since Modesto is closer to San Francisco, we plan on going to the famous bridge and take a family picture. Hahahaha, yes, we're lame like that, but we have not been there as a family! On our way there, we will see an old virtual friend whom I met at UPOU while take courses online and my English teacher in high school whom I have not seen since I got married. This trip will be good for Cinzia too, so she will be able to meet her cousins again.
2. One month of FREE studies at La Sierra University - I will be taking 11 units as a requirement for my SDA credential. My employer pays for this and so I might as well take advantage of it. I am excited because this school was my dream when I was still in the Philippines. I was working so hard to save to get into this university. Thankfully, the time has come that I will be studying and not paying a dime at La Sierra. To God be the glory! And oh, since it is one hour away from our place, we opt to stay at Alex's relatives' house in Riverside.
3. Cinzia's first birthday - Who would have thought this once little tiny baby is turning one soon? Where did time go? I am sure moms out there feel my sentiments. Why do our babies grow so fast? I went back to work last year when Cinzia was still 6 weeks old. She was so tiny, now she is a curly chunky chatterbox who now stands on her own and crawls so fast. Now, she eats rice too! Her birthday party will be at Verdugo Park in Glendale. It will be with families and friends. All invites were already out. Food orders were made. We will have rice, chicken adobo, pancit, and lumpia. Alex (and his team) will also grill turkey burgers and chicken on the spot. It should be a fun birthday! This baby has so much love flowing from her friends and families.
3. Trip to Tennessee - There is a teacher's conference in August for all those who are teaching in the SDA organization in the whole US, and the host state is Tennessee! It will be my first time to be down south. All expenses paid, and I am bringing Alex and Cinzia along! It is always fun to be in new places. We will be staying at the beautiful Gaylord Hotel.
I am so looking forward to do all these things. These are just the major ones, the minor ones include going to the beach, eating out, working out, and just walking at a park.. as a family. Last year, we could not do as much because Cinzia was just born and it was not wise to go around with a delicate baby in tow. This year we will roll again.
1. One whole week trip to Modesto to visit my uncle's and auntie's families - It is a five-hour drive from North Hollywood, where we are. Since Modesto is closer to San Francisco, we plan on going to the famous bridge and take a family picture. Hahahaha, yes, we're lame like that, but we have not been there as a family! On our way there, we will see an old virtual friend whom I met at UPOU while take courses online and my English teacher in high school whom I have not seen since I got married. This trip will be good for Cinzia too, so she will be able to meet her cousins again.
2. One month of FREE studies at La Sierra University - I will be taking 11 units as a requirement for my SDA credential. My employer pays for this and so I might as well take advantage of it. I am excited because this school was my dream when I was still in the Philippines. I was working so hard to save to get into this university. Thankfully, the time has come that I will be studying and not paying a dime at La Sierra. To God be the glory! And oh, since it is one hour away from our place, we opt to stay at Alex's relatives' house in Riverside.
3. Cinzia's first birthday - Who would have thought this once little tiny baby is turning one soon? Where did time go? I am sure moms out there feel my sentiments. Why do our babies grow so fast? I went back to work last year when Cinzia was still 6 weeks old. She was so tiny, now she is a curly chunky chatterbox who now stands on her own and crawls so fast. Now, she eats rice too! Her birthday party will be at Verdugo Park in Glendale. It will be with families and friends. All invites were already out. Food orders were made. We will have rice, chicken adobo, pancit, and lumpia. Alex (and his team) will also grill turkey burgers and chicken on the spot. It should be a fun birthday! This baby has so much love flowing from her friends and families.
3. Trip to Tennessee - There is a teacher's conference in August for all those who are teaching in the SDA organization in the whole US, and the host state is Tennessee! It will be my first time to be down south. All expenses paid, and I am bringing Alex and Cinzia along! It is always fun to be in new places. We will be staying at the beautiful Gaylord Hotel.
I am so looking forward to do all these things. These are just the major ones, the minor ones include going to the beach, eating out, working out, and just walking at a park.. as a family. Last year, we could not do as much because Cinzia was just born and it was not wise to go around with a delicate baby in tow. This year we will roll again.
Friday, May 04, 2012
Answered prayer
"Congratulations! The (school) board voted to renew your contract for the 2012-2013 school year."
This is such a blessing! My employer, Glendale Adventist Academy, is answered prayer. I really like teaching there. I like praying and singing praises everyday with my students. I like serving God at this school. I like the fact that is just a 20-minute drive from our apartment and the 134 freeway is not congested. I like the people at school - my co-teachers, administrators, and other workers. I like how they take care of me as a teacher. There are a few problems but I like my school in general! I remember my prayer last summer. I told God, "Please send me to a school where I'd grow old." Could GAE be the one? I hope so.
This is such a blessing! My employer, Glendale Adventist Academy, is answered prayer. I really like teaching there. I like praying and singing praises everyday with my students. I like serving God at this school. I like the fact that is just a 20-minute drive from our apartment and the 134 freeway is not congested. I like the people at school - my co-teachers, administrators, and other workers. I like how they take care of me as a teacher. There are a few problems but I like my school in general! I remember my prayer last summer. I told God, "Please send me to a school where I'd grow old." Could GAE be the one? I hope so.
Friday, April 20, 2012
Solutions
So I came up with solutions to ease the burdens on my shoulders...
Positive thinking. I am an optimistic child of God. What happened to my optimism? Didn't God give us promises so He will carry all our cares? How can I forget that? The thing is, I am a control freak. If I could control the weather, I would. I need to learn the lesson "Be still and know that I am God" all over again. Focus on the positive things, Rica. So many good things and opportunities have come your way.
Trust Alex. God gave him to me to complement me, not to be just like me. Marrying someone like me is not something that I wanted. That is creepy. I definitely thank God for a wonderful husband. He is patient, brilliant, caring, and knows what he is doing. God called me to be his wife so I should learn to relax, let him be the driver (even when we are falling into a ravine), and encourage him. I married a sinner (just like all of us) so I should not expect him to be perfect.
Save. Seriously, Rica, how can you not save when you are at the peak right now? So I started saving the money I get from my tutoring for the rainy days. Thankfully, the money saved up and I am contented. So saving can be done. It is just a matter of little sacrifices here and there. Honestly, I do not want to stress out with money. I am done with stressing about money. It is time to seriously save and create an emergency fund.
Be grateful. As I said above, so many opportunities have come my way. Instead of being grateful all the time, my bratty self won again in the past weeks. Cinzia is healthy. My new contract with Glendale SDA School came and my pay went up and my co-teachers said, it is going to increase every year. I will be studying at La Sierra University this summer - at my employer's expense. I will be going to Tennessee this summer to attend a teachers' conference. My family's needs are met. I have 10 students whom I tutor one-on-one on a weekly basis. These are some of the things I am thankful for. I am also thankful for my students who are bright and receptive to knowledge. I am also grateful of the times they misbehave or deviant. It gives a chance to think and say my words carefully.
Life is good. How much better it is in heaven!
Positive thinking. I am an optimistic child of God. What happened to my optimism? Didn't God give us promises so He will carry all our cares? How can I forget that? The thing is, I am a control freak. If I could control the weather, I would. I need to learn the lesson "Be still and know that I am God" all over again. Focus on the positive things, Rica. So many good things and opportunities have come your way.
Trust Alex. God gave him to me to complement me, not to be just like me. Marrying someone like me is not something that I wanted. That is creepy. I definitely thank God for a wonderful husband. He is patient, brilliant, caring, and knows what he is doing. God called me to be his wife so I should learn to relax, let him be the driver (even when we are falling into a ravine), and encourage him. I married a sinner (just like all of us) so I should not expect him to be perfect.
Save. Seriously, Rica, how can you not save when you are at the peak right now? So I started saving the money I get from my tutoring for the rainy days. Thankfully, the money saved up and I am contented. So saving can be done. It is just a matter of little sacrifices here and there. Honestly, I do not want to stress out with money. I am done with stressing about money. It is time to seriously save and create an emergency fund.
Be grateful. As I said above, so many opportunities have come my way. Instead of being grateful all the time, my bratty self won again in the past weeks. Cinzia is healthy. My new contract with Glendale SDA School came and my pay went up and my co-teachers said, it is going to increase every year. I will be studying at La Sierra University this summer - at my employer's expense. I will be going to Tennessee this summer to attend a teachers' conference. My family's needs are met. I have 10 students whom I tutor one-on-one on a weekly basis. These are some of the things I am thankful for. I am also thankful for my students who are bright and receptive to knowledge. I am also grateful of the times they misbehave or deviant. It gives a chance to think and say my words carefully.
Life is good. How much better it is in heaven!
Friday, March 16, 2012
Life in 2012 so far..
Well, my year started really good. Blessings come my way. I am still working at my dream school. I still love my wiggly first graders. My baby is already 8 months old! Everything is going well but..
The realities of US life hit me. It is not easy to live in this part of the world. California has high cost of living. Most of my earnings just go to bills - rent, car insurance, internet, phone provider, power, gas for both our apartment and car, etc. It's a lot! Though I am earning well at my school, I wonder why it's still just enough. Alex and I were earning way less than what we earn now when we just started as husband and wife but we still cannot save the money we always aim for. I have to stay in my 2nd job which is tutoring K-8 students. I have 4 employers who gave me students within 10 miles my zip code. I am blessed my full-time job ends at 3pm (one of the many perks of being a teacher!) and so I still have time during the day to earn more on the side. Well, Cinzia is already here and she entails expenses too. She has demands too. Plus, Alex and I get chiropractic care and dental care and these are another expense. Again, it is a lot! Plus, everyday when I get home, I still need to cook, feed Cinzia, do house chores, and clean the house. Again, it is a lot!
My stress level is high that I often bark at Alex for minute things. I guess I have not fully adjusted to the realities of the life here in the US. I am very futuristic, idealistic, and optimistic. But sometimes the goings-on wear me down. It is hard.
In the Philippines, I can hire a helper to help me clean the house. I do not need a car to go around. I have my parents to, maybe, help me take care of Cinzia. The beach is just a stone's throw away. Vacation getaways are just there. Friends just meet anytime to chat, just to chat, and it was fun. Here you cannot easily go on vacations and meet friends. Everything and everyone is far.
Sigh*
God, please give me a peace of mind. You brought me here in the US for a reason. We have come this far together. We can overcome this too together, right?
The realities of US life hit me. It is not easy to live in this part of the world. California has high cost of living. Most of my earnings just go to bills - rent, car insurance, internet, phone provider, power, gas for both our apartment and car, etc. It's a lot! Though I am earning well at my school, I wonder why it's still just enough. Alex and I were earning way less than what we earn now when we just started as husband and wife but we still cannot save the money we always aim for. I have to stay in my 2nd job which is tutoring K-8 students. I have 4 employers who gave me students within 10 miles my zip code. I am blessed my full-time job ends at 3pm (one of the many perks of being a teacher!) and so I still have time during the day to earn more on the side. Well, Cinzia is already here and she entails expenses too. She has demands too. Plus, Alex and I get chiropractic care and dental care and these are another expense. Again, it is a lot! Plus, everyday when I get home, I still need to cook, feed Cinzia, do house chores, and clean the house. Again, it is a lot!
My stress level is high that I often bark at Alex for minute things. I guess I have not fully adjusted to the realities of the life here in the US. I am very futuristic, idealistic, and optimistic. But sometimes the goings-on wear me down. It is hard.
In the Philippines, I can hire a helper to help me clean the house. I do not need a car to go around. I have my parents to, maybe, help me take care of Cinzia. The beach is just a stone's throw away. Vacation getaways are just there. Friends just meet anytime to chat, just to chat, and it was fun. Here you cannot easily go on vacations and meet friends. Everything and everyone is far.
Sigh*
God, please give me a peace of mind. You brought me here in the US for a reason. We have come this far together. We can overcome this too together, right?
Saturday, December 31, 2011
2011 was my year!
Happy New Year!!!!It is 2012!!
Honestly, I do not want 2011 to end. 2011 is my year. So many good things happened to me and my family that year. First of all, I can only thank God for everything - tears, challenges, pain, and blessings, all rolled in one. I am also thankful that Alex and I are still in love with each other, still have the same goals, worked out our differences, and are now proud parents of Cinzia Amor Glaze. The highlights of my 2011 are as follows (in random order):
The birth of my daughter
Cinzia is such a blessing! She is 5 months old now. Without bias, I can truly say she is a cutie pie. Wish baby production is as easy as 123 so I could have more cuties just like her..
MA in Teaching degree from USC
With a huge belly (7months preggy), I marched through my graduation in May 2011. My classmates cheered for me! I was the most pregnant that day!
A fulfilling career
As I tell my friends, I feel guilty that I do not feel that my job is a job. I am enjoying it too much! I like my co-teachers, my students, and my school. I feel at home. My kids' parents are so supportive. They make my teaching easier. My kids are also brilliant! I cannot ask for more. I am so proud of them.
Trip to Philippines with Alex and Cinzia!
It was fun! Alex and I love to travel and it seems that Cinzia does too! She did not create any fuss on our long flights, long layovers, and during our stay in Davao. the trip was just two weeks but it was fun-filled, happy, and productive. Alex and Cinzia were able to meet my family.
I wonder if 2012 has way better things in store for me. Bring it on!!!
Honestly, I do not want 2011 to end. 2011 is my year. So many good things happened to me and my family that year. First of all, I can only thank God for everything - tears, challenges, pain, and blessings, all rolled in one. I am also thankful that Alex and I are still in love with each other, still have the same goals, worked out our differences, and are now proud parents of Cinzia Amor Glaze. The highlights of my 2011 are as follows (in random order):
The birth of my daughter
Cinzia is such a blessing! She is 5 months old now. Without bias, I can truly say she is a cutie pie. Wish baby production is as easy as 123 so I could have more cuties just like her..
MA in Teaching degree from USC
With a huge belly (7months preggy), I marched through my graduation in May 2011. My classmates cheered for me! I was the most pregnant that day!
A fulfilling career
As I tell my friends, I feel guilty that I do not feel that my job is a job. I am enjoying it too much! I like my co-teachers, my students, and my school. I feel at home. My kids' parents are so supportive. They make my teaching easier. My kids are also brilliant! I cannot ask for more. I am so proud of them.
Trip to Philippines with Alex and Cinzia!
It was fun! Alex and I love to travel and it seems that Cinzia does too! She did not create any fuss on our long flights, long layovers, and during our stay in Davao. the trip was just two weeks but it was fun-filled, happy, and productive. Alex and Cinzia were able to meet my family.
I wonder if 2012 has way better things in store for me. Bring it on!!!
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Goal achieved.
God set me up. It was so clear.
One of the goals I set early this year was to establish my career. A baby was coming and so I had to settle down career-wise. I thought I would end up at a public school because my teaching and job experiences since I got here in the US were in public schools. Boy was I wrong. God has a better plan.
I ended up at an SDA school, a private school at that. I love working there. My co-teachers awesome! My students are great! I cannot believe this. Plus, the school is just 10 miles away from home! The pay is way better too than what I got in the public school. This is such a blessing!
The process how I got the job was overwhelming. Our pastor recommended me. It turned out there were 3 of us being interviewed for the teaching vacancy. I met up with the principals twice. The second one was with the Personnel Committee with 12 people. I cried after the 2nd interview in my car. It was overwhelming and emotionally draining. The waiting game is always worse. Four days after school started, they called me. It was the call I have been waiting for!(When the principal and I hung up, Cinzia pooped all over my lap! That was her best way to tell me, "Congratulations, Mommy!")
I love Glendale Adventist Elementary School. I love first grade. I hope and pray I will grow old there. This is the career I long for. This may not be the job I envision myself getting into but this situation is better than that. Thanks a lot, Big Papa!
One of the goals I set early this year was to establish my career. A baby was coming and so I had to settle down career-wise. I thought I would end up at a public school because my teaching and job experiences since I got here in the US were in public schools. Boy was I wrong. God has a better plan.
I ended up at an SDA school, a private school at that. I love working there. My co-teachers awesome! My students are great! I cannot believe this. Plus, the school is just 10 miles away from home! The pay is way better too than what I got in the public school. This is such a blessing!
The process how I got the job was overwhelming. Our pastor recommended me. It turned out there were 3 of us being interviewed for the teaching vacancy. I met up with the principals twice. The second one was with the Personnel Committee with 12 people. I cried after the 2nd interview in my car. It was overwhelming and emotionally draining. The waiting game is always worse. Four days after school started, they called me. It was the call I have been waiting for!(When the principal and I hung up, Cinzia pooped all over my lap! That was her best way to tell me, "Congratulations, Mommy!")
I love Glendale Adventist Elementary School. I love first grade. I hope and pray I will grow old there. This is the career I long for. This may not be the job I envision myself getting into but this situation is better than that. Thanks a lot, Big Papa!
Saturday, August 13, 2011
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Cinzia's Birth Story
It has been more than a month since I gave birth. Cinzia has become the center of our lives since then. She is such a beautiful Pan-Pinoy kid. Before I forget my experiences prior to and on 7/7/2011, let me reminisce them here.
July 1 - During my regular OB appointment, Dr. Wu said I am 3cm dilated. He reviewed my records and said, I have two due dates. It could have been on July 1, based on my last period, OR on July 13, based on my ultrasound. Before Alex and I left his office, he said, "If nothing happens during the weekend, see me on July 5."
July 5 - Alex and I went to see him. Apparently, nothing happened over the weekend. He said I am still 3cm dilated, there was no improvement from last time. After he checked on me, he invited us to a private conversation at the back of his clinic. He told us that if we wait longer (until my 40th wk), Cinzia might get bigger because genetically she can get bigger because of her dad. Medically, my body is not suited to carry a baby that big because I am small, relatively. To avoid C-section, we might as well have the baby this week. He suggested that we check in the hospital Wednesday night that week and he would induce me that night. The plan was for us to have the baby at 12nn on Thursday, 7/7. Alex and I agreed to the idea. Dr. Wu said, "I am the pilot here and I believe this is the best for the baby."
July 6 - Friends Ritche and Rose came to our place for moral support. They brought Alex and me to a Korean restaurant close to Glendale Adventist Med Center where I will be delivering. We then checked in the hospital at around 8:30pm. It was so funny because right when we opened the door to the delivery and labor area, the nurses welcomed us with, "Glaze?" They were already waiting for us. I then changed to the hospital gown they gave me. They then attached tubes and the IV. They also put monitoring devices around my tummy. They injected pitocin through the IV. That was the drug to induce me. Alex and I slept.
July 7 - This is the big day so I am going to write down more details.
12:30 am - I felt the contractions but they're light still. I kept on going to the bathroom to cleanse my bladder then I went back to sleep.
2:30 am - I needed to go to the bathroom so badly!!!!I woke up Alex and it took him forever to unattach the tubes and stuff so I could go. I was getting frustrated. When I got up, I felt a trickle of water down my leg. My water just broke! When I sat on the toilet, nothing came out. My nurse arrived and she said it must be the baby pushing out. I laid down again and a gush of water just came out! It was warm and uncomfortable. Then my contractions just got stronger. They were painful. Alex and I started doing the breathing exercises we learned at the lamaze class. The nurse checked on me and I was already 6 cm dilated. She then asked me if I wanted the epidural. I said yes. The pain was tolerable but I did not know how long I can bear the pain and how long my labor will be.
3:00 am - The anesthesiologist came to give me the epidural. My contractions were getting stronger and more painful. She injected it to my spine and I felt pain but it was nothing compared to the contractions. The epidural slowly kicked in. Alex and I decided to sleep again.
6:00 am - The nurse checked on me and I was already 10 cm! She said I was ready to push!Her words, "I am calling Dr. Wu now" scared me. Alex and I were looking at each other. Our stares were saying, "This is it."
7:00 am - Dr. Wu came and checked me. The nurses asked me to push.
I forgot what time it was but Dr. Wu came back with his team. He said Cinzia was in a 7o'clock position, instead of 6o'clock. He had to vacuum her. With the nurses, they told me to push.
7:35 am - I finally heard Cinzia cry. She has come out!I cried and cried. I was so overwhelmed.
Here is our first family picture and a picture with Dr. Wu. He is the best OB! Thank God for him! It is such a blessing to have Cinzia. She is an angel.
July 1 - During my regular OB appointment, Dr. Wu said I am 3cm dilated. He reviewed my records and said, I have two due dates. It could have been on July 1, based on my last period, OR on July 13, based on my ultrasound. Before Alex and I left his office, he said, "If nothing happens during the weekend, see me on July 5."
July 5 - Alex and I went to see him. Apparently, nothing happened over the weekend. He said I am still 3cm dilated, there was no improvement from last time. After he checked on me, he invited us to a private conversation at the back of his clinic. He told us that if we wait longer (until my 40th wk), Cinzia might get bigger because genetically she can get bigger because of her dad. Medically, my body is not suited to carry a baby that big because I am small, relatively. To avoid C-section, we might as well have the baby this week. He suggested that we check in the hospital Wednesday night that week and he would induce me that night. The plan was for us to have the baby at 12nn on Thursday, 7/7. Alex and I agreed to the idea. Dr. Wu said, "I am the pilot here and I believe this is the best for the baby."
July 6 - Friends Ritche and Rose came to our place for moral support. They brought Alex and me to a Korean restaurant close to Glendale Adventist Med Center where I will be delivering. We then checked in the hospital at around 8:30pm. It was so funny because right when we opened the door to the delivery and labor area, the nurses welcomed us with, "Glaze?" They were already waiting for us. I then changed to the hospital gown they gave me. They then attached tubes and the IV. They also put monitoring devices around my tummy. They injected pitocin through the IV. That was the drug to induce me. Alex and I slept.
July 7 - This is the big day so I am going to write down more details.
12:30 am - I felt the contractions but they're light still. I kept on going to the bathroom to cleanse my bladder then I went back to sleep.
2:30 am - I needed to go to the bathroom so badly!!!!I woke up Alex and it took him forever to unattach the tubes and stuff so I could go. I was getting frustrated. When I got up, I felt a trickle of water down my leg. My water just broke! When I sat on the toilet, nothing came out. My nurse arrived and she said it must be the baby pushing out. I laid down again and a gush of water just came out! It was warm and uncomfortable. Then my contractions just got stronger. They were painful. Alex and I started doing the breathing exercises we learned at the lamaze class. The nurse checked on me and I was already 6 cm dilated. She then asked me if I wanted the epidural. I said yes. The pain was tolerable but I did not know how long I can bear the pain and how long my labor will be.
3:00 am - The anesthesiologist came to give me the epidural. My contractions were getting stronger and more painful. She injected it to my spine and I felt pain but it was nothing compared to the contractions. The epidural slowly kicked in. Alex and I decided to sleep again.
6:00 am - The nurse checked on me and I was already 10 cm! She said I was ready to push!Her words, "I am calling Dr. Wu now" scared me. Alex and I were looking at each other. Our stares were saying, "This is it."
7:00 am - Dr. Wu came and checked me. The nurses asked me to push.
I forgot what time it was but Dr. Wu came back with his team. He said Cinzia was in a 7o'clock position, instead of 6o'clock. He had to vacuum her. With the nurses, they told me to push.
7:35 am - I finally heard Cinzia cry. She has come out!I cried and cried. I was so overwhelmed.
Here is our first family picture and a picture with Dr. Wu. He is the best OB! Thank God for him! It is such a blessing to have Cinzia. She is an angel.
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